After keep having bad dream and feels like he's around me, amazingly, I met my first ex yesterday.
Trust me...Nothing happens..
It was just unplanned meeting and we say hi..
I share this opinion to understands more about guy
Actually, it is not easy to trigger what actually in their minds
As I told my MR.OKU, on the meeting (which I thought he might get jealous)
Ironically, HE DOES NOT GET JEALOUS
Despite, he even told me that I was rude for not take more time to talk with my ex..
What??? on what reason I must stay..
And on what reason he did not get jealous
And more even weird, on what reason my ex treat me like a stranger?
I try to be nice to him as he is related to my MR.OKU and he's even one of my friend before we break up.
As the time pass, we have our own partner, hence I don't even think it was a problem to make friends.
I found an article on MEN believe that they SHOULD NOT BE friends with their ex ( I guess my ex even thinks so)
1) COMFORT Zone
It's never easy to break up with someone
you've shared good times with (and even if they were bad times, they
were still times).
But the person who does the breaking up
feels like less of a bad guy by offering that sense of truce: "It's not
you, it's me. We can still be friends." This peace offering of
friendship provides the dumper with the solace of knowing they aren't
such a horrible person because they still want to be friends with their ex.
2) I've created a monster:
Not only does it give the dumper the
comfort of knowing they aren't monsters, but by wanting to remain
friends, it also allows the dumper to feel that their former lover will
still be in their life, and they won't have to miss having them around.So now the dumper can move on with their life with ease, and with the
pleasure of having coffee with their former mate every so often. The
person who got dumped, however, has the pleasure of being constantly
reminded of the person who ripped out their heart when they receive
friendly messages and e-mail.
3) You've seen each other naked
As hard as it is to accept, it's
difficult to bring a relationship back to its normal state after having
been intimate with someone. You will always have an image of that person
naked, and memories of the trysts will always be triggered by the smell
of her skin or perfume, or even by hearing a song that you once made
passionate love to.And as thick-skinned as you are, it's hard
to see the person in the same light after being entangled in each
other's skin and sharing a moment of sheer ecstasy with one another.
4)You can't confide in each other
As hard as two exes
try to stay friends, they can never really confide in each other. How do
you tell your ex that you have a hot date tonight or that you and your
new lover are going away on
a steamy getaway?
You can't even tell your ex that the reason you're smiling so much is
because a woman has just pleasured you like never before. You
can tell her these things, but new lovers and mates are always going to
be a sensitive issue. It's even harder to tell her how hurt you were
that your date stood you up the other night, thanks to your sense of
pride.
Remaining friends seems to provide us with the security
blanket that the person who has been in our life will still be there,
and we can call on them every once in a while to find out how they are,
however, we'll never actually know how they really are.
5) There will always be one-sided bitterness
Since breakups are rarely one-sided, one party will always feel
resentment or bitterness toward the other. Even if your ex is feigning
friendship, she's not sincerely your friend. If it seems like plans with
your new potential woman are always being sabotaged, they just might
be.
6)Jealousy comes into play
And where there's bitterness, there's
jealousy.
And the truth of the matter is that it's hard to be sincerely happy for
your ex when she's just found the new love of her life.
7)You don't want them with anyone else
It's human nature to be jealous or resentful when our ex finds a new
person to cuddle up to, even if our feelings have somewhat faded. It
becomes a race of who will find the new lover first, a challenge
especially brought on by the person who was dumped. Even for the person
who did the breaking up, the thought of someone else taking your place
in the memories that you and your ex shared is hard, and sometimes
extremely painful to fathom.
8)Passion still exists
Even if your relationship was completely problem-ridden, chances are that
the passion and sexual chemistry
between the two of you still exists (unless lack of attraction was the
reason for your breakup). This is a recipe for disaster because it means
that every time you get together under this new "friendship" premise,
the lust and passion you have makes it more likely that you'll end up in
"one more" night of unbridled "goodbye" sex, for old times' sake. This
brings you right back to square one — how you felt right after your
breakup, and just when you were doing so well.
I do admit that it was hard to make your ex to be your friends
But all of the argument above shows that you do not accept the fact that your relationship already end
And you even cannot forgive and forget the past that you have with your ex
Surely, it is hard to forget
But we can treat is as one of the lesson in life
However, life must go on
Get a new life and stay happy
That's the purpose of life
YOU WILL NEVER KNOW THE FUTURE
HENCE, WHY WE SHOULD BLAMING EACH OTHERS
this post doesn't mean that I really want to be friends with my ex. It was just a thought where I'd love to share to make my readers understand that everything is on Allah to plan. We should not regret on what Allah had give to us. Just keep positive to Allah's plan and Be Happy..
